Loss and Grief Management Counselling is a type of therapy designed to help individuals cope with the emotional, psychological, and sometimes physical pain that comes after experiencing a loss. Loss can come in many forms, such as the death of a loved one, loss of a relationship, loss of health, job loss, or any significant life change. This is a supportive therapeutic process that helps individuals understand, process, and adapt to the emotions and challenges that come with grief. The goal is not to “erase” the pain but to help the person find healthy ways to cope and eventually rebuild meaning in life.

Grief is the natural emotional response to loss. It involves a wide range of feelings such as sadness, anger, guilt, confusion, or even relief, depending on the nature of the loss. Some grief is expected and heals gradually, while other types (complicated, delayed, masked, disenfranchised) can block healing and need more therapeutic support.

 Normal (Uncomplicated) Grief

• The natural response to loss.
• Healing occurs as the person adjusts to life without the loved one.
• Includes sadness, crying, yearning, and gradual acceptance over time.

Anticipatory Grief

• Happens before the actual loss, e.g., when a loved one is terminally ill.
• Involves preparing emotionally, experiencing sadness, or even guilt before death occurs.

Complicated (Prolonged) Grief

• When grief is intense, long-lasting, and interferes with daily life.
• Can develop into depression or other mental health concerns if untreated.
• The person may remain “stuck” in sorrow for years without moving toward healing.

Delayed (Postponed) Grief

• When the grieving process is suppressed or put on hold.
• The person may appear strong or unaffected at first but breaks down later, often triggered by another loss or stressor.

Chronic Grief

• Grief that continues for a very long time without signs of improvement.
• Similar to complicated grief, but often the intensity does not decrease over the years.

Disenfranchised (Hidden) Grief

• Grief that society does not recognize or validate.
• Because it’s not acknowledged, the mourner may feel isolated.
• Examples: loss of a pet, miscarriage, loss of an ex-partner, or grief in marginalized relationships.

Masked Grief

• The person may not even realize they are grieving.
• Grief that shows up as other behaviors or problems (e.g., anger, substance use, physical illness) instead of open sadness.

Cumulative Grief

• When someone experiences multiple losses in a short period.
• Each new loss adds to the previous one, making coping very difficult.

Denial – “This can not be real.”

• At first, it may feel like the loss has not really happened.
• Denial helps protect us from feeling too much pain all at once.

Anger – “Why me? Why now?”

• Feelings of frustration, blame, or even rage can surface.
• It is normal to feel angry at people, at God, or even at the person who has passed away.

Bargaining – “If only…”

• We try to make deals in our mind: “If I do this, maybe things will change.”
• It often includes guilt or regret, wishing we could go back and do something differently.

Depression – “These hurts so much.”

• Deep sadness comes as reality sinks in.
• You may feel withdrawn, tired, or lose interest in daily life.
• This is a natural and important part of healing.

Acceptance – “I can live with this.”

• Acceptance doesnot mean forgetting.
• It means finding peace and adjusting to life with the loss.
• You carry the memory with you while still moving forward.

 Note for clients

• Some may not go through all five stages.
• All of this is normal grief, and it is a personal journey.
• The model helps normalize grief as a process, not something to “get over quickly.”
• You might move back and forth between them, or experience some more strongly than others.
• These stages are not linear (do not always follow these stages in order); people may move back and forth between them or experience them in a different order.

• Death of a loved one
• Miscarriage or infertility
• Serious illness or disability
• Divorce or relationship breakup
• Loss of identity, status, or independence
• Loss of employment or financial stability
• Migration or displacement (loss of home/culture)

• Cognitive: Difficulty concentrating, forgetfulness, confusion.
• Emotional: Sadness, anger, guilt, shock, loneliness, depression.
• Spiritual: Questioning faith, searching for meaning, loss of hope.
• Physical: Fatigue, sleep disturbance, appetite changes, headaches.
• Behavioural: Withdrawal, restlessness, crying spells, loss of interest in activities.

• Encourages healthy coping mechanisms.
• Provides a safe space to express feelings.
• Helps in understanding the grieving process.
• Reduces the risk of complicated grief or depression.
• Supports personal healing and finding new meaning in life.

• Listening & Support: Provide a non-judgmental space for the grieving person.
• Education: Explain the grieving process and normalize the client’s feelings.
• Skill-building: Teach coping skills to manage overwhelming emotions.
• Encouragement: Guide the client toward rebuilding life after loss.
• Monitoring: Watch for signs of complicated grief or depression that may require further intervention.

Provides versatile counselling to our clients within the county and in the Global space at the Online/Virtual Center, which is open from 6.00 AM to Midnight every day of the week. This dynamic center allows our Global clients to equally access therapy services from their country of residence, and for the other clients that treasure privacy to equally access therapy on or out of camera. However, for those around Nairobi, the Capital City of Kenya, we have a Physical Office for you in Nairobi, Upper Hill- Kenya Medical Association (KAM) Center. The Physical Center is open from 7.00 AM to 7.00 PM to accommodate those of you who are working.

The cost for virtual and physical therapy is the same, and our client can interchange the model without any penalty. The therapy session can be One-on-One, Joint/Couple, or Group therapy. We are a prepaid honest center, and once payment is made, it is reserved for a therapy session. It does not matter how long the client takes to be available; you cannot lose your money while in our system. Please take time and read our terms and conditions, to understand important parameters like session cancellation is done within 24 hours, and once payment is made for a therapy session, it cannot be refunded, but should be used for a therapy session only.

We have professional counsellors trained and licensed to provide all forms of therapy, but with expertise in stress management therapy. With their support, you will learn your triggers to stress, ways of managing the stress, and skills to manage frustration and coping mechanisms. Your therapist will provide a safe space to catharsis (vent out); help you to develop coping strategies, reshape your thinking patterns, improve your relationship, performance and address the issue at hand better. Book a therapy session and find a mental wellness support and personal therapist to walk and guide you to manage that stress, which is interfering with your life. Do not share your story in the wrong places and with the wrong people; they do not care about you. Come and Share with a Counsellor at our Center, At Share We Care. Come and Share with a Counsellor at our Center, At Share We Care.

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