This is a therapeutic process that helps individuals explore, understand, accept, and manage their sexual identity healthily and positively. It provides a safe, confidential, and non-judgmental space where people can address personal, social, cultural, and psychological issues related to their sexual orientation, gender identity, or sexual expression. This type of counselling is especially important for individuals experiencing confusion, stigma, discrimination, internal conflict, or family and community rejection regarding their sexual identity.

Sexuality refers to the broad and complex aspect of human life that involves a person’s sexual feelings, attractions, behaviours, desires, identity, and expression. It is not limited to sexual activity but also includes how individuals understand themselves, relate to others, and experience intimacy.

Key Dimensions of Sexuality

• Biological aspect - Relates to physical sex, reproductive systems, and sexual responses.

• Psychological aspect - Involves emotions, desires, fantasies, and personal understanding of one’s sexual self.

• Social aspect - Shapes how sexuality is expressed and influenced by culture, religion, family, peers, and society.

• Identity aspect -Includes sexual orientation (who one is attracted to), gender identity (sense of self as male, female, both, or neither), and sexual identity (how one labels and expresses themselves).

Sexual identity is a part of a person’s overall identity that describes how they define and understand their own sexuality. It refers to the label or sense of self a person adopts in relation to their sexual orientation, attractions, behaviours, and preferences.

Key Points about Sexual Identity

• Self-Definition - It is how someone chooses to describe themselves (e.g., heterosexual, homosexual, bisexual, queer, asexual, etc.).
• Internal Understanding - It reflects how individuals perceive their attractions, desires, and feelings.
• Expression to Others - Some people openly share their sexual identity (coming out), while others may keep it private.
• Fluidity - Sexual identity can change over time as people grow, reflect, and experience life.
• Distinct from Gender Identity - Sexual identity is about who you are attracted to, while gender identity is about who you are.

Sexual orientation refers to a person’s pattern of emotional, romantic, and/or sexual attraction to others. It also includes how they may label themselves and their identity. Below are the common types:

• Heterosexual (Straight) - Attraction to people of the opposite sex.
• Queer - A broad term some people use to describe a non-heterosexual orientation.
• Questioning - When someone is unsure about or exploring their sexual orientation.
• Demisexual - Experiencing sexual attraction only after forming a strong emotional bond.
• Bisexual - Attraction to both men and women.
• Pansexual - Attraction to people regardless of gender or sex; based more on personality or emotional connection.
• Asexual - Little or no sexual attraction to others, though they may still desire emotional or romantic relationships.
• Homosexual (Gay/Lesbian) - Attraction to people of the same sex.
  • Gay: usually refers to men attracted to men.
  • Lesbian: women attracted to women.

This is a person’s deep, internal sense of their own gender, which may or may not align with the sex assigned to them at birth. It is how someone personally experiences and defines themselves in terms of being male, female, a blend of both, neither, or somewhere along the gender spectrum. Gender identity is a central aspect of one’s self-concept and can greatly influence mental, emotional, and social well-being.

Gender Identity - Refers to a person’s deeply felt internal sense of being male, female, both, neither, or somewhere along the gender spectrum. It is about who you are. Example: Someone assigned female at birth may identify as male (transgender man), as both male and female (non-binary), or as female (cisgender woman). Gender identity -Who you are.

Sexual Identity (or Sexual Orientation) - Refers to a person’s enduring pattern of emotional, romantic, and/or sexual attraction to others. It is about who you are attracted to. Example: Someone may identify as heterosexual (attracted to the opposite gender), homosexual (attracted to the same gender), bisexual (attracted to both), or asexual (experiencing little to no sexual attraction). Sexual identity- Who you are attracted to.

• Self-Exploration -  Helping clients explore their feelings, attractions, and self-concept without pressure or judgment. Promotes self-awareness and clarity about one’s sexual identity.
• Acceptance and Self-Esteem Building - Supporting individuals in embracing who they are and developing self-worth. Strengthens self-acceptance, confidence, and resilience.

• Coping with Stigma and Discrimination -  Equipping clients with skills to handle societal, cultural, or religious rejection. Provides emotional support in facing stigma and rejection

• Family and Relationship Support - Assisting with disclosure (coming out) and improving communication with loved ones. Enhances relationships with family, partners, and community.

• Mental Health Support - Addressing issues like depression, anxiety, shame, or identity conflict linked to sexual identity struggles. Reduces stress, anxiety, and confusion related to identity struggles

• Empowerment and Advocacy - Encouraging clients to live authentically, build resilience, and advocate for themselves

A counsellor plays a supportive and guiding role in helping clients explore, understand, and manage their sexual identity in a safe and non-judgmental environment. The main roles include:

• Providing a Safe Space - Creating a confidential, non-judgmental atmosphere where clients can openly discuss their feelings, struggles, and questions about their sexual identity.
• Facilitating Self-Exploration - Helping clients understand their emotions, attractions, and experiences so they can develop clarity about their sexual identity.
• Promoting Self-Acceptance -  Supporting clients to embrace their identity, reduce self-stigma, and build positive self-esteem.
• Offering Psychoeducation -  Providing accurate information about sexual orientation, gender identity, and sexuality to clear myths and misconceptions.
• Coping with Stigma and Discrimination -  Equipping clients with emotional resilience and strategies to handle rejection, prejudice, or social pressure.
• Supporting Coming-Out Processes - Guiding individuals on whether, when, and how to disclose their identity to family, friends, or society, depending on their readiness and safety.
• Strengthening Relationships -Assisting in improving communication with family, peers, or partners regarding sexual identity issues.
• Advocacy and Resources - Linking clients with support groups, networks, and community resources that affirm their identity.
• Addressing Mental Health Concerns - Helping clients manage anxiety, depression, loneliness, or stress related to sexual identity struggles.

Provides versatile counselling to our clients within the county and in the Global space at the Online/Virtual Center, which is open from 6.00 AM to Midnight every day of the week. This dynamic center allows our Global clients to equally access therapy services from their country of residence, and for the other clients that treasure privacy to equally access therapy on or out of camera. However, for those around Nairobi, the Capital City of Kenya, we have a Physical Office for you in Nairobi, Upper Hill- Kenya Medical Association (KAM) Center. The Physical Center is open from 7.00 AM to 7.00 PM to accommodate those of you who are working.

The cost for virtual and physical therapy is the same, and our client can interchange the model without any penalty. The therapy session can be One-on-One, Joint/Couple, or Group therapy. We are a prepaid honest center, and once payment is made, it is reserved for a therapy session. It does not matter how long the client takes to be available; you cannot lose your money while in our system. Please take time and read our terms and conditions, to understand important parameters like session cancellation is done within 24 hours, and once payment is made for a therapy session, it cannot be refunded, but should be used for a therapy session only.

We have professional counsellors trained and licensed to provide all forms of therapy, but with expertise in stress management therapy. With their support, you will learn your triggers to stress, ways of managing the stress, and skills to manage frustration and coping mechanisms. Your therapist will provide a safe space to catharsis (vent out); help you to develop coping strategies, reshape your thinking patterns, improve your relationship, performance and address the issue at hand better. Book a therapy session and find a mental wellness support and personal therapist to walk and guide you to manage that stress, which is interfering with your life. Do not share your story in the wrong places and with the wrong people; they do not care about you. Come and Share with a Counsellor at our Center, At Share We Care. Come and Share with a Counsellor at our Center, At Share We Care.

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